a second go around…

As promised I told you Id share with you a juicy story out of the book so settle in and enjoy…

Many women have that one man who gets under your skin, makes you crave to spend more time with them, time you never should have given them in the first place. Case in point Fatty

(a nickname a girlfriend gave him when she met him, and it’s stuck ever since, not the nicest but neither was this guy).

I’ll be the first to admit social media has revolutionized the dating world and made it one crazy mess.  Between facebook, texting, and twitter (yes I’ve had someone seek me out on twitter- more on that later) a girl can get so caught up and confused, not to mention lead on that it’s downright nasty.

But back to Fatty, see we had known of each other for some time (since college) but never really interacted, till he pursued me. I gave him my number, and fast forward about 3 weeks, he asks if I’ll come watch a movie and dinner with him on Valentine’s Day.  Being a single girl, I jumped at the chance for a night out. 

-I have to include the fact, Fatty was unlike other guys, he CALLED to talk to me a lot. Between the texts when he was busy, he actually called me! It was so refreshing, and probably part of his charm. Besides the fact he was at the time (prior to the nickname fatty) incredibly cute, had a fantastic smile (My weakness is a great smile with nice teeth!) and proved to be a great kisser!

So, our date (unofficial) was great we laughed and had great chemistry, we talked a lot and I thought he was a really sweet guy… till I didn’t hear from him for a month and a half later. Being the ballsy girl I am I called him out on his shit and told him that was no way to treat any lady. Things were on Ice after that…

Flash forward to my vacation in another country when he calls me to tell me he misses me?!

WHAT THE WORD!!!

(Best part my girlfriend who gave him the nick name listened to the voicemail and forwarded me the message… she thought it was the weirdest thing ever- she didn’t know the half of it)

Here this boy was sitting in the combine of all places and pours his heart out on my Voicemail, saying he would really like to see me and take things further…. I was on a beach with the ocean in front of me, and cold beer beside my lawnchair, he could wait!!!

And so he did, till November ,this had been going on since February. So, he drove 4 hrs to tell me the same bullshit story he had given me the first time…

You know that saying fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me… well this girl didn’t give him a second chance to fool me. 

The advantage of being burnt one too many times is that you can read a scum bag right from the first smile (that doesn’t mean I don’t like giving them a chance now and again - I swear I was a dentist in my former life, no one else I know has such an obsession with nice teeth)

So, I proved to be smarter this time around, and got what I wanted out of the situation. I’ve still got Fatty’s number in my phone, and still have him as a facebook contact because what drives men mad more than not getting what they want, is being able to watch that girl get what she wants from someone else…

For the record, the texts from him still continue today, over a year later. He is that guy I should let go, but sometimes we are our own worst enemy and hang on to the ones who make the room spin with one smile because asshole or not being wanted (even if just for that second) is an addictive feeling.

Lesson learned, if you give someone else a second chance make sure it’s worth it, and always always always call the shots its that simple!

Hope your having a great week my Sweets.