A good challenge…

 

While when most people sit and think about New Year’s resolutions most think of things they will do to make their life better, quit smoking, exercise more, get back into the jeans you love and refuse to throw out because no other pair makes you ass look that great sort of resolutions. Well, for me mine was also in an attempt to make my life better.

For lack of a better descriptive verbiage, my dating life has been filled with scum bags.  So when New Years Eve 2011 rolled around I reflected back on the past year( the online attempt, along with other stories you’ll read about) I thought to myself, every one of these people was a near stranger, I didn’t know their credentials , their words and actions (or lack thereof) were up for interpretation! So being the progressive women that I am, decided to change that little fact and perhaps there would be better results.

I proposed to make my resolution for 2012 to only go on dates, or meet someone if they had been “pre-approved” by my friends. Yes I left my dating life in the hands of the people who knew me, and also knew single men. This way, these male suitors are held somewhat accountable for how they behave. Or so I hoped.

It’s now April, and I have had 3 match making attempts. While none of them seemed to be a good fit, each attempt made me realize more and more of what I’m really looking for in someone to spend my time with.  Most importantly however it’s teaching me what is really important about myself that I refuse to compromise in order to make others happy. That’s besides those little things, like having control of the remote, sleeping in wool socks, and belting out Celine Dion when the mood strikes me.

I am going to try and keep things simple and will number the blog post for every date that was a match make attempt… this way I can keep sharing with you the blunders of dating past, because some of those are the best stories to share!

Also, I should clarify the name behind the blog (itsreallydifficult- for explanation see first blog post). The name however its that simple came from the conversations with my girlfriends about my little black book(s) filled with my dating nightmares and the fact that a potential book would be titled its that simple.

You’ll quickly learn that every dating disaster had its hidden message, one that I’m attempting to share with you to help you navigate this complex and sometimes ugly world known as dating. Every story is truthful, and I won’t be using anyone’s real names out of respect – although some don’t really deserve it.

So you basically have my journal at your finger tips, with a bit of my dry humor and sarcasm injected into the stories so you get a good feeling of how I was actually processing things as every event unfolded.

This post might actually take the award for most boring, but now you will be able to follow along with the current dating experiences as well as the past. Thanks to one of my AMAZING girlfriends I finally have a quiet night to sit and write!!! So, seeing as next week my toes will be in the sands of Mexico and my hands will be holding cold beer, I’m going to attempt to post several times this week!

I might have broke the resolution this weekend, you can be the judge when I share the story

I may have just gotten home from a date

So stay tuned my Sweets,