A single girlfriend and I were just talking about needing to
get out there and make ourselves more available, to which we both replied. NOT
ONLINE!!! Now this response came from an interesting personal experience… enjoy
(this story happened last fall/winter)
I had just moved to a new city, the only people I knew were
family and a few girlfriends, so feeling adventurous I sat down with my older
sister one night to create an online dating account. Heck I thought this would
be a great thing, meet some new men maybe find a love connection and see what
else came my way…
So, the account was made, and I soon found myself looking
forward to checking it. I shared several of the profiles with my sister, and
will admit we have a good laugh at a few, and it became fun to check the “trap
line” every night … Anyone who has done online dating can attest to the typical
online dating response, men looking for a good time, men old enough to by my
dad looking for a good time, and men who wouldn’t be brave enough to talk to a
woman in person looking for a good time! I quickly began thinking this was a BAD
IDEA!!
Then insert the paramedic. Now ladies we all have that
fixation for a man in uniform. I will agree to this 100% something about a man
in a uniform just gets me excited. This wasn’t my first man in uniform, so I
was pretty confident on how to play this one. (I’ll save the other uniformed man for later!)
So, our first date was at a coffee shop, we talked found out
we had a lot in common, he was from a small town. The same small town one of my
friends was from, so being the girl I am, I did a background check on him, (like
I do with almost every guy I date) she said he was a nice guy so I continued to
see him. I thought it was going really well, we managed to meet up several
times a week for coffee or a walk in the park between my schooling and his work
schedule. Things were fun and easy.
Then a month in it clicked, he hasn’t even kissed me or
asked to kiss me, I thought this was a tad bit odd. We had spent a fair amount
of time just the two of us. Had gotten to know the basics (dating history,
family dynamics, future plans) but why the heck hadn’t he tried to plant one of
me?! I felt like a fly hitting the
window. I for the life of me couldn’t figure out why, and it wasn’t for a lack
of flirting, or some sort of religious or personal background, but yet there
was no kiss. I waited it out thinking maybe he was a gentleman?!
SO, after one of our dates, I finally just asked him on the
way home if he was attracted to me or just looking for a friend. I have never
seen a grown man get so nervous in all my life. His answer was sweet and long
drawn out involving something about “on my mind all the time” but it was in
that minute that I knew he wasn’t a strong enough man for me.
Sure he spends his time at work saving lives and getting
covered in bodily fluids which is heroic, but he didn’t have strong enough guts
to kiss a girl he liked because she made him too nervous… it wasn’t long after
that that I let him know I wasn’t interested in spending time with him anymore
and felt we would be better off with other people…
I didn’t hear much from the paramedic after that, I’m sure
in his brain he also thought everything was going to lead to marriage, even
though we hadn’t kissed in over 2 months of seeing each other.
However, one night out in town I did run into him, well more
like he stalked me out in the bar and asked “hey do you remember me?” – With a
wafer thin girl who looked about 18 on his arm…. I smiled politely said “hey of
course, how could I forget, looks like you’re doing well gesturing to his
brunette cracker” I waited for a response, to which I could tell he didn’t have
so I saved him the pain and said “it’s just this simple” and walked away with a
drink in each hand and a smile on my face!
***For the record after ending things with the non kisser, I
deleted my online account and haven’t looked back since! It’s a process that
works for some people, but at this point in my life I won’t be pursuing it
again anytime soon.***
While this story wasn’t that exciting, I had a certain someone
(you’ll hear about them later- that’s a promise) nagging me about when the next
post was going up. So I thought better not delay, and threw this one up
tonight. It actually should work well as
a good prelude into the next post on my New Year’s Resolution, as well as
provide more insight into why the blog is called it’s just that simple.
The domain name is itsreallydifficult – because creating
this frustrated me more than rush hour traffic through downtown… but the blog
itself, it’s just that simple has a story behind it as well!!! – All so
confusing I know…
Have a fantastic week my Sweets
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